Dating guy on rebound
When I met my husband he had just ended a three- year relationship.
This it the same guy who asked me to marry him just 20 minutes after we met!
I imagined that a combination of friends, casual dating, and personal growth would fill the lonely void created by my spouse’s absence, but they didn’t.
Friends aren’t always as reliable as romantic partners, dating prospects can dry up, and the depression of heartbreak often impedes personal growth.
Believe me, I know that my take on the issue is controversial among other matchmakers and dating coaches. When someone feels happier and more comfortable in a relationship, why should they force themselves to stay single?
By getting right back out there they will be saving themselves from sitting alone agonizing over what went wrong in their last relationship.
The fact that they were wrong for us doesn’t mean they deserve to be alone and miserable for the rest of their life.
your ex with their next partner (which you will, thanks to the pervasiveness of social media), it’s hard not to take it personally, especially if you’re still in that emotional “rebounding” state while they appear to have moved on.
So I found myself imagining that a new relationship, this time with the right person, would help me climb out of the ditch the divorce left me in.
I strongly believe that if you are talking about a man who is a relationship-oriented guy (meaning he is most comfortable being in a partnership and knows how to be a committed boyfriend/partner) he is not going to stay single for very long after a break up. That great guy will be off the market before you can even bat an eyelash.
Why would you steer clear of such a winner just because he recently broke up with someone? Being dumped or ending a long relationship is so challenging no matter the circumstances, so why should you be forced heal from the loss alone?
The next woman I dated was a rebound, too, as was the woman I would eventually commit to a serious relationship with.
Rebounding isn’t something that happens once with a single partner; it’s an emotional state that a grieving person undergoes after a break-up, and there isn’t a limit on how long that grieving takes, nor are there fool-proof steps to get through the grief faster.